Super Nanny - So NOT I

I was watching Super Nanny last night, well, parts of it here and there anyway.
I have seen this show a few other times and something that I have noticed is that Jo Frost is a Sleep Nazi!!!! Last night was one of those shows where the children sleep with the parents. It was more extreme than I have ever seen before. I have to argue with Jo Frost though in saying that sometimes for the child and the parents, a Family Bed is Okay!
We have a family bed in our house. We wouldn't have it any other way. Yes, at times it can be exhausting. But I am okay with that, more than okay with that actually. I want my children to know that they can come to me and I will be there. Whether it be 8 AM, Noon or 2 AM! I'm up, full attention, to whatever they need.

When my son was born, he was extremely fussy, later colic. If any mother knows, a colic baby is the saddest thing on the plant! Being a first time mom, having a colic baby was probably the best thing for me. I was ready for any baby after that. The only way I could get my son to sleep during those times was if he slept right in my arms, literally, he could not touch any part of the bed at all. That baby had a radar like you wouldn't believe. He slept in my arms for 9 months. By 12 months he was able to sleep by me, but never in his crib. I tried EVERYTHING! Feberizing DOES NOT WORK! He cried for 4 hours straight with me going in every 15 minutes, then 20 minutes, then 30 minutes and so one. That theory was crap for me! My son slept with us until he was 4 years old. We could get him in his bed IF someone laid with him to fall asleep, but if he woke in the middle of the night, he was running to our bed! He will now go to bed, no crying, no tears, no tantrums, just simply the 3B's: Bath, Books, Bed. He is awesome now! I do not agree with Super Nanny that children MUST sleep in their own beds. My son is proof that this theroy is incorrect!

My Daughter slept with me until around 12 months as well (yes, both son and daughter were in bed with us). {She was colic as well! I don't know what God was testing me on! }Namely because I was nursing her and it was easier all around. I later moved her to her crib and she did well. We moved to Bejing, China in 2005 and that threw her entire sleep pattern off. She refused to sleep in the crib anymore and to prove this, at age 16 months, crawled right out of that crib. Since we were in a tiny apt and had no other bed for her, she had to sleep with us. On our return to the USA in 2006, we were able to slowly get her back to sleep by herself in her own room and bed. I had to lay with her as well, but she sleeps on her own now as well. But, whenever she comes in, I do not banish her from our bed!

The Baby did very well with the bassinet. Great, in fact. I actually thought I finally knew what I was doing in regards to getting children to sleep. She still woke about every 2-3 hours to nurse (she has a number of helath issues and did not eat well), but would go right to sleep in the bassinet. That was until we went on vacation when she was 9 months old! No cribs available, so she slept with me in a bed. Well, she was ruined after that! She still sleeps with us in our bed and I took the crib down long ago. She never slept in it either.

So, I basically have a $400 brand new crib that I put in each child's room that no one ever slept in!

So, Super Nanny, I don't agree with you and your theories on parent's beds and a child's bed. I firmly believe in a Family Bed and will never change my mind! It's not like my kids will be sleeping with us as teenagers!

Remember this, our children are with us for just a short part of their lives, we have our entire lives to sleep alone and catch up on these sleepless nights!